We all need a time to slow down.

Have you had people tell you to "calm down" and you hear it as something completely different? I will raise my hand to that one. My parents used to say it to me a lot, my husband would tell me it as well. I would always say, "do not tell me to calm down because that just makes everything worse!" but in all reality...we really do, I mean there are times where we do get frustrated for good reasons but we do need to be able to SLOW DOWN, slow down our body, slow down our thoughts and just BREATHE. I am continuously practicing this every single day, I have to because I have kids and to be the best version of myself is to not be so frantic all the time, which took me a LONG time to really get that in my head. 

I have things that I say to myself now when I start to feel the pressure in my chest, when I start trembling because a bomb is about to go off in my 

head if I do not get this anxiety under control. I truly was very tired of feeling that way, then bursting out at my kids and my husband. This, is not healthy and I needed to find something to be able to control it better or even to suppress it when I felt even a little bit of pressure in my chest start rising. I started to tell myself that "I'm okay", "this moment will pass", " I can do this and I AM doing this", also this is a HUGE one, "I am doing the BEST I can". You might be thinking that you cannot even think when you are starting to have an anxiety attack so how do you even do that? 

I had to start with one step at a time, I would go into my bedroom and I would breathe in through my nose and out through my mouth. I said this in another post but I am saying it again because it's the TRUTH, I would even just go in the bathroom and sit on the floor and get my breathing under control. I then started to tell myself those things "I'm okay", "this moment WILL pass", "I can do this and I AM doing this","I am doing the best I can". We are not perfect, we need time to collect ourselves and it does take communication with your spouse if they can just watch the kids for a couple minutes so you can get your brain back in motion, or even go for a walk outside, breathe the FRESH air in. 

We have to do it for US, you have to do it for YOU. Do not let the little things keep building and building inside of you, vent to a friend, write it all out on paper. I have always loved journaling and then I stopped because of things that were going on in my life then, but I am so glad I picked my journal back up and started to just write it all out on paper, even if you are crying let those tears FLOW. You need to be able to feel the feeling and then you need to tell yourself you are okay, you can do this, you can get through the rest of this day, you can get through the rest of this week! you just need to take a step back, breathe and brush yourself off and KEEP GOING. There really is no reason to sit in misery. If you ask me that is asking to not want to move forward and get better at handling the anxiety that we do feel inside of us. 

Breathe, use the mantra that I wrote down here or create your own uplifting POWERFUL word that will get you back up. Don't stay down, the only way is UP.